Storm-Tested, Family-Focused: The Moments That Molded Me
- Najla Al-Essa
- Apr 11
- 3 min read
We often talk about life-changing experiences as if they arrive with grand fanfare — a promotion, a wedding, a big move. But for me, the most transformative moments came quietly, without warning — often wrapped in fear, pain, and the realization that everything could be gone in an instant.
I’ve had more than a few brushes with death — moments so surreal, I sometimes wonder how I made it through. But I did. And I carry those moments with me, not as scars, but as reminders of how fragile and precious life really is.
The first time I stared fear in the face was during the birth of my daughter. What was supposed to be the happiest day of my life turned into a harrowing ordeal. She had meconium aspiration syndrome — a condition I had never heard of before but will never forget. For a few terrifying moments, I almost lost her. Watching a room full of doctors fight to bring her back while I lay helpless will forever be etched into my soul. That experience taught me the depths of a mother’s love — and fear.
The second childbirth was no less dramatic, but this time it was my life that hung in the balance. Somewhere between labor and delivery, I suddenly couldn’t breathe. Panic took over. I turned blue. The room blurred. And in those terrifying seconds, I thought I wouldn’t make it to meet my child. It was as if the very air I needed was stolen away, replaced by fear. But I survived — and I held my baby with more gratitude than I ever knew possible.
Then came the car crash — the one that changed me in ways I didn’t fully understand until years later. The vehicle was crushed beyond recognition, a mangled shell that looked like a used tissue. Somehow, I walked away with just a few bruises. But in those terrifying seconds, I remember seeing flashes of my children — their little faces, their laughter, their innocence. I remember thinking, “This is it.” And I was… ready. I was calm. I was prepared to meet God. I didn’t cry or scream. I just surrendered. The shock was so deep that I didn’t tell anyone — not even my family. Only my husband knew. And for five years, I carried that silent memory with me like a secret prayer.
Life didn’t stop testing me.
One foggy morning in Switzerland, I set out for a peaceful hike at 6 a.m. As I moved quietly through the mountain path, two massive reindeers came charging down the slope — full speed — and landed just five meters from where I stood. I froze. It was majestic and terrifying all at once. Nature, again, reminding me of her unpredictable force.
Then there was my own horse — a creature I loved and trusted — who suddenly turned on me. It happened so fast. Had a trainer not been standing beside me, I don’t know what would’ve happened. That day, I realized how quickly trust can be broken, even in the spaces we consider safe.
And once, while swimming in the sea, I was stung by a group of jellyfish. The pain was sharp and immediate, but what lingered was the reminder that beauty and danger often coexist — sometimes in the same wave.
These aren’t just stories of survival. They are the chapters that have shaped my character, the silent teachers that taught me resilience, humility, and presence. They’ve taught me to slow down, to be grateful for the now, and to never take a single breath — or heartbeat — for granted.
They say it’s only when you come close to losing everything that you truly realize what matters. I’ve had those moments — and I’ve emerged from them not just alive, but transformed.
Because survival isn’t just about breathing. It’s about awakening.
And just when I thought the tests were behind me, life sent me its most complex challenge yet — people. Time and time again, I’ve been hurt, shocked, and disappointed by those I never expected. Some taught me the meaning of betrayal. Others taught me silence. But through it all, I’ve learned to rise — stronger, more discerning, and deeply anchored in my values.
Today, I carry a quiet kind of resilience. I no longer seek validation, nor do I waste time on masks or noise. My only real priority is my family — the people who truly matter. All I want now is to be there for them, for as long as I’m given. To protect, nurture, and love them with all the strength these experiences have carved into me.
Because at the end of the day, storms may shape us — but love is what keeps us standing.
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